This is my new mantra thanks to my psychiatrist. “Own your own shit”, he said to me while I was hospitalized this last week. We didn’t change medication or look for any magical solutions to my latest crisis, just common sense advice from him this time around.
So what does owning my own shit look like exactly? I guess it means being responsible for my own stuff and stop taking on what doesn’t belong to me. I can’t save the world, nor should I put the expectation upon myself that I should be. I have enough of a job trying to save myself.
Just like others aren’t responsible for my peace and happiness, I am not responsible for theirs. I only have the power to control myself and my choices and I have to accept that. Being human means we have free will to think and feel for ourselves.
Owning my own shit means that nobody else is going to solve my problems either. If I’m not happy with something in my life, it’s up to me to change it. I can accept things for how they are and remain unhappy or I can take action to improve things. Nobody is waiting to do it for me. They’re too busy dealing with their own shit.
So now, when I see someone coming, hauling all their shit with them, I’m just going to yell OYOS and offer them compassion and understanding.
OYOS. Thanks doc.